I am a Girl Developer and Here are the Perks

I live in a man's world. 

A world where:

• my seatmate's (AKA team lead) station has Gundam toys and mine has yellow chick/duck stuff toys 🐥
• emotions aren't important 💆🏻
• it took some time before I felt like I have a voice
• talking about what I think vs what they think is harassment can be difficult.
• they start talking about games and I start feeling lost again
• people laugh about things I feel insecure about
• people are a lot more nit picky
• people are a lot less sensitive
• people secretly judge you for how extra you are (for the things you consider normal)

But it's this world over anything else. 

Why?

Less Drama 💆🏻

A world all about memes > a world with new drama every 2 minutes

That's the thing with working with guys, life becomes a lot simpler.

I don't have a lot of friends and I like to keep it that way. And I always think one of the things I prefer to hang out with guys (not 100% tho) was the fact that I don't have to deal with their bullshit. I already have a lot on my own.

There are only 5 girls in our dev office and yet I still managed to sabotage myself and the people around me with friendship drama. What more if we are dominated by girls like me? like her? I don't think I could take even just 1 more crazy like that.

I am a spoiled princess baby girl

...who gets special treatment from my team (okay and other workmates) even though I don't deserve it 💛

Okay so it's the little every days things.

• They rush to the door to open it for me/wait for me and keep the door open as I walk slowly with my little legs
• Of course I'm not strong enough to change the water in the dispenser
• They try to be a lot gentler with me, than if they're talking to other men
• free stuff (food) 🍟🍕🍝🍰🍪☕️ because you don't see a guy buying other guys a Starbucks drink often

Story time: Yesterday during lunch, this guy I eat lunch with bought Burger King fries which everyone knows is to share with me. And then in the afternoon, another workmate gave his Jollibee fries to me with no questions asked 🙌🏻

Days my work get recognized are extra special

1. I did that
2. I am a girl who did that

When I do something extra special, even when a workmate just comments "nice!" on my pull request, I feel like I make them believe a little bit more that us girls can rock this world too, with all our make up and shopping and monthly tantrums 💪🏻.

Of course I would love to live in the IT world with more girls like me, but it's also nice knowing that they think I don't belong and yet it didn't stop me from creating awesome stuff.

For now, I'd like to have my moment while every little win counts more.

I can still be myself

I feel like I am always extra. And I like it.

I can flaunt the new outfit I bought a few days ago in Forever 21. I can wear all the make up in the world that I want. I can talk about all my girl drama, dream wedding, or skincare. 

I can scare them off when it's that time of the month and it gets hard to talk to me.

They may get shocked at the beginning, but they'll get used to it (because they don't really care)👌🏻

Plus, it just takes time before we all realize that these men are more feminine than I will ever be 💁🏻

I have the bathroom all to myself

No lines. No waiting. 💯

I get to do my favorite hobby, every day, with 💸💸💸

In a world where women belong in the kitchen, where women cleans the house and takes care of the kids, where women who make money make men insecure, no thank you.

I would prefer to challenge (torture) my brain, every day.

The fact that I am here is already a win.